I was in an unhappy marriage for 9 years.

I am a Christian everything I heard in the Missouri Synod said divorce is a sin unless there had been infidelity.

So I stayed. I was raising my child alone even while I was still married.

He had a son from a previous relationship. After 9 years it was possible that I might not see him again.

The idea of the kids being separated and losing contact with each other.

It turns out that none of my fears came to be.

The older kids have stayed in touch. I was invited to my son’s wedding reception.

Being a single mom was hard, but it didn’t make much difference since my ex was never involved anyway.

At some point in the marriage, my ex was having affairs. The last one was the end of the marriage.

He paraded this woman around the house when the children were at home. He was supposed to be watching them.

Once I had the courage to confront the two cheaters, I gave my ex a 5 minute ultimatum

Choose me. We go through a lot of therapy. No more woman, pornography and drinking.

Choose her, get out of my house now. He was now on his own to do whatever he wanted.

I made it clear that if he left the house with her, he would not be welcomed back under any circumstances.

It was horribly painful but it was the right thing to do for me and for the kids.